Overcome Shyness Talk to Me

Hi to all of you that are overcoming your shyness using the Baby Step Method. How is it going?

Are you really and truly working on each baby step? If you are not then get going. Time is moving on. Are you are still thinking, pondering and maybe even rejecting the Baby Step Method. I know it may sound like a silly name to some but so what? It works. Check in with other ex shy persons and they will tell you that they used this technique in some form or another. I have created the Baby Step Method so they may not know it by that name. They will know it when you tell them the details of the Baby Step Method. I can’t make you take the baby steps, that is up to you. I can only give you the tools to help you overcome your shyness.

If you are working on your baby steps good for you. Congratulate yourself on taking the leap. You are on the path to overcoming your shyness. I have one important piece of information I want you to read over and over and over until it is imprinted into your brain. Before I share that I want to tell you a secret. The Baby Step Method is simple but not easy. It is simple so there is nothing truly complex to do. It is not easy because you are doing something that does not come naturally to you. Keep working.

Here is what you must read over and over and over until it is imprinted in your brain - FOCUS ON EFFORT NOT RESULTS. This should be one of your daily mantras. Repeat it over and over and over and over. The Baby Step Method is simple but not easy. The effort you put in will create results. The results will not be instantaneous. That is why you must FOCUS ON EFFORT NOT RESULTS. If you do not put in the effort you will not get the results. Work it, practice it, do it! Every time you do this congratulate yourself. You are focusing on effort not results. One day soon you will wake up and see the results.

I have a request. I would love to hear from you on how this is going. I would also love to hear from you with your questions about shyness.
Marcia, Your Confidence Coach
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End Shyness Now - Your Check Up

Greetings to all.
A few days ago I shared with you a quick, simple technique that you can use when you feel shy. I am sure you have tried this technique. I am also sure you used it a number of times. I am also sure it was helpeful and handy when your shyness took over.

I also shared with you the Baby Step Method to end shynesss. This is your check up visit. How are you doing? Are you making progress?

You should be working on those baby steps every day. Do not get discouraged. The way to overcome your shyness is to focus on effort, not results. The fact that you are making the effort is what is important if you want to end your shyness. If you focus on effort results will come. It is just like the saying "Practice Makes Perfect." Focus, Focus, Focus on effort. Practice, Practice, Practice.

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Marcia, your Confidence Coach

Overcome Shyness Baby Step Four

Baby Step Four
Well you made it to Baby Step Four. Congratulations.

You are truly working to overcome your shyness. You are feeling more relaxed with your shyness. You have identified what your body feels like when you feel shy. You have also identified what your body feels like when you do not feel shy. You have also made a list of circumstances when you feel shy. You have chosen one situation from that list. You are practicing what it feels like to not be shy in that one situation.

You have done a lot of work. You are truly taking a proactive approach to ending your shyness. You have come so far. You must stop to pat yourself on the back for being so courageous. You are truly ready for Baby Step Four.

Baby Step Four is the final Baby Step in the Overcome Shyness with the Baby Step Method. You are ready for it. In Baby Step Three you were practicing in the privacy of your own home. Now you are ready to go out into the world and show the world what you have accomplished. Yes you are going to engage in that one situation you have been working on and go out into the world and do it. You have the tools to overcome your shyness now. Go out and do what you have been practicing. YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Let me know what happens.

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Overcome Shyness Baby Step Three

Baby Step Three

Greetings. You are on the path to ending your shyness now.

Yesterday you took Baby Step Two. You made a list. It was easy. So now what? Now I want you to take a look at your list. Pick out one area you are shy in from your list. Just one and don’t agonize over the selection. Just pick one. It doesn’t matter which one you pick because this technique applies to all of them. Now that you have selected this one area you are going to do a little exercise. Don’t worry you won’t need workout clothes for this. This is a mental exercise. You will use your mind to do this.

Get comfy and relaxed in a quiet space. Turn off the radio, the TV and any other distractions. Ask anyone around to please not contact you for the next five minutes.

Take some deep breaths. Now let’s get started. Picture yourself in the situation you picked where you feel shy. Notice how your body feels when you feel shy. Are your muscles tense? Are you clenching your jaw? Is your stomach churning? Do you have a knot in your stomach? Identify all these sensations. This is your personal indicator of what shyness feels like to you. Spend some time with these sensations and notice every last one. This is the way you feel when you feel shy. Probably this is uncomfortable. Feeling shy does feel uncomfortable. Don’t get into your head and berate yourself for feeling like this. Let that go and just notice and observe the physical sensations of shyness.

So now you know how your body reacts to feeling shy. It is probably not a good reaction. It probably does not make your body feel good.

Now we go to step two of the exercise. Take some deep breaths. Picture yourself in the same situation EXCEPT now you are no longer shy. You are confident. Now how does your body feel? Are you still tense? Any stomach activity? Concentrate on seeing how you feel when you are not shy. Notice how your body feels when you are not shy. Notice your body’s sensations when you are not shy. This is how not being shy feels. Big difference.

Practice this at least once a day. Don’t go on to situation two until you feel that situation one is conquered. How will you know when situation one is conquered? You will definitely notice. When you imagine yourself feeling shy in this situation you will have to work hard to re create that feeling. When you imagine yourself feeling not shy in this situation you will not have to work hard. It will be easy to picture yourself as not shy. I know that in a couple of days you will notice results.

Next comes Baby Step Four. Baby Step Four is the last step. If you want end your shyness faster check this out.

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End Shyness, Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

OVERCOME SHYNESS Baby Step Two

Baby Step Two

Yesterday you took Baby Step One. You admitted to yourself that you are shy sometimes. Don’t forget to recognize this accomplishment. Perhaps you had resistance to Baby Step One. Perhaps you hemmed and hawed about admitting you were shy sometimes. That is fine. The point is that you admitted it. You did Baby Step One.

So let’s move on to Baby Step Two.

Baby Step Two
Baby Step two involves making a list. Get a piece of paper and pen. Write down all the situations you feel shy. Keep writing until you have nothing left to write. Don’t worry if you feel silly doing this. Just write and write and write. Do not censor your mind. Just write and write and write. Once you are done with your list take a peek at it. If it is long good for you. You have admitted and discovered the exact situations you feel shy. If it is short then now you know exactly when you feel shy.

That is the end of Baby Step Two. Do you see how simple this is? Do you see how easy this is? I bet you are in a hurry to get to baby Step Three. You breezed through Baby Step One and Baby Step Two. You are ready for Baby Step Three. I bet you feel confident. I bet you are feeling relieved and relaxed. I bet you know you can tackle your shyness. I have something special for you. I included it for you because I know you are ready to end your shyness. Please check out the link below

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Overcome Shyness with the Baby Step Method

Good morning to all the shy people out there. Today I am going to share with you something exciting and special.

Shy people are great people who in some social settings lack confidence. Take a moment to let that seep into your being. So now we have established that you are great. But what about the confidence part? I looked up the word confidence and here are some definitions;

Assurance
Freedom from doubt
Belief in yourself and your abilities

Assurance – Do you feel self assured? Not when you feel shy.
Freedom from doubt - Do you doubt yourself? Yes when you feel shy.
Belief in yourself and your abilities – Do you believe in yourself and your abilities? Not when you feel shy.

Do you notice a pattern here? I do. Things are okay when you do not feel shy. So let’s see what we can do about this feeling of shyness. Let’s accept it as a part of you. Let’s accept that it is a part of you that will no longer stand in your way.

I can see you shaking your head with disbelief. You have been shy all your life. So what?? You do not have to be shy for the rest of your life.

Let’s get started in confidence building. I want you to think back to when you were a baby. Were you born walking? Of course not. One day you discovered crawling. Later on you discovered standing up while holding on to something. Later on you could stand up on your own. Later on you took some steps. Later on you were walking. How did that happen? It happened because you took baby steps. One thing at a time. One baby step led to another baby step until you were walking. After many baby steps you developed confidence.

So let’s take the first step. Step one is so simple you will laugh. Admit to yourself that you are shy SOMETIMES. Then say, “SO WHAT” and smile.

Stay tuned for your next baby step.

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Just Breathe

Just Breathe
I once attended a seminar on stress management. After about 6 minutes I was zoning out. The speaker was explaining the definition of stress. She also provided us with examples. The more she spoke about stress the more stressed out I got. I thought I would have to leave but finally she went on to some solutions. I was glad I stayed because I learned something valuable. I practice it whenever I need to. It is so simple. You can do it anywhere, any time.
Why am I telling you this? Stress and shyness are connected. Being shy can cause stress. If you can lower your stress level you can feel more comfortable. So for all you stressed out shy people here is the tip. JUST BREATHE!!!

It is a special type of breathing. Simple but special.

Instructions. Take a deep, deep breath through your nose. Keep taking that deep breath through your nose until you lungs feel full. As your lungs fill up your diaphragm will expend. You chest will move forward. Now hold that breathe for as long as you can.
When you are ready to exhale – exhale through your mouth very slowly. Keep pushing the air out until there is none left.
Do this three to six times.
Notice how much better you feel. You will feel relaxed, calm. Do this whenever you need to.

Here’s the gig. You have that feeling of shyness sweeping over you. You have a tool; deep breaths. Just breathe.

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In My Old Life

In my old life I was shy. In my old life I could not ask anyone out. In my old life I was lonely. In my old life I stayed home alone a lot. In my old life I was shy. I left my old life behind. This is how I did it.
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