Get Unstuck

Today I will probably say some things that may anger you. I am not sorry about doing this. I am just letting you know what people that are shy have expressed.

There are two ways to see the world. There is the way that benefits you and lets you learn and grow. There is the way that keeps you stuck.

People that are shy view the world in the way that keeps them stuck.

Is this harsh? Are you starting to get angry? Okay. I am not worried that I have stated something that is getting a rise from you.

When you are shy practically everything you do that relates to other people will get your intense attention. You will obsess and worry ahead of time. You will be overtaken by physical sensations that you find unpleasant.

Right now you are starting to feel uncomfortable but you know exactly what I am talking about.

You will feel defeated before you even start. You will get into your negative thinking. You will know the outcome before anything happens. You are stuck with the reaction you know will happen. You are focused on the negative. You are focused on your own reality. You are focused on failing.

Even if you do what you fear and it does not turn out badly you do not trust that outcome. You do not trust that outcome to be repeated. You are proud it did not turn out badly but you do not believe that this positive outcome can be repeated by you.

Once again you are focused on your own reality. Once again you are stuck. You do not believe that you can benefit and grow from letting go and trusting yourself.

If you fail you see that as a tragedy. Failing has a benefit. Failing is a learning experience. I love the Bob Dylan line:

"She knows there's no success like failure and that failure's no success at all."

Success and failure are not the same but they do go together. Failure leads to success.

Confusing - yes.

True - yes.

Isn't it time to be different? Isn't it time to alter your reality? Isn't it time to trust yourself? Ins't it time to succeed? Isn't it time to get unstuck? Join the unstuck.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach