Get paid to Read E Mails

I just wanted to let you know about a part time job you can do at home by yourself. You get paid to read e mails. YOU DO NOT PAY TO JOIN THIS SITE. THEY PAY YOU.

This is ideal if you are shy and want some extra income.

The emails are on a web page so they will not clutter up your in box.

You select the topics you are interested in.

This job would be for money for a rainy day. It could also be good for your family members that do not have the time to work outside the home.

Pass this on.

See what you think.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

You are an Adult

Do not do anything about your shyness. Do not attempt to work on any shyness issues you have. Don't get the raise you want. Don't get the promotion you deserve. Don't socialize. Just remain the way your are.

That is reverse psychology. It sounds kind of silly. It may work on kids. you are not a kid. You are an adult.

So take the adult route. Visit here.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Your Break is Over

Monday. The start of a new week. The start of new challenges for you.

What will you do this Monday to overcome your shyness? Have you given up? Have you stopped working on this situation?

Why? Things you tried did not work. Things you tried made you feel uncomfortable. Things you tried became tedious. All good reasons. All good reasons to give up. Not good reasons to press on.

Sorry that you have given up. Sorry that you have good reasons to give up. Sorry that you tried and did not get what you wanted.

Is that who you really are? Are you a quitter? I know that you are not a quitter. I know that you have NOT REALLY given up. You are on a break. You needed a breather.

Break is now over. Breather is now over. Time to get back on target. Time to pick up where you left off.

Time to move forward.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

An Appeal

I am greatly disturbed by the information about Cho Sueng-Hui. Apparently he had some problems with shyness. Under no circumstances am I stating that his shyness caused his rampage.

What did disturb me was the unfortunate lack of understanding and knowledge of his public school teachers. He was asked to speak in class and for him this was a difficulty. Unfortunately, his teachers were not trained nor experienced in how shyness can affect public speaking.

Perhaps we need more information about how shyness does affect a student.

He was also teased by his classmates. This can be hurtful and painful. It can be difficult for people that are not shy to truly understand how shyness can affect someone. Of course ignorance is no excuse for thoughtless, callous behavior.

However, the damage is done and the hurt remains.

If you are shy and feel that you want to overcome your shyness please visit her. If you know someone that is shy please pass this along to them.

If you are not shy please consider your actions more carefully. I know that your intention is not to be hurtful.

PLEASE NOTE THAT I AM NOT BLAMING NOR DEFENDING ANYONE. I AM POINTING OUT SOMETHING THAT WAS INVOLVED IN A TRAGIC CHAIN OF EVENTS. THE RELEVANCE OR IMPORTANCE OF WHAT I AM DISCUSSING IS NOT SOMETHING I AM TAKING A POSITION ON. MY HEART GOES OUT TO ALL WHO WERE AFFECTED BY THIS HORRIBLE TRAGEDY.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Shyness Poems

I found these poems about shyness. I think they are lovely, sad and heartfelt.

SHY by Kristen
Timid eyes
Seeking out an answer
A lump in the throat
Attacking like a cancer
Small dull emotion
All that can be shown
Hear a faint cry
As you lie there all alone
Envious of ideal
Images to be
The solemn, barren face
Is all that they can see
Reflections in the mirror
Are as good as it can get
Loneliness is no lost
Stranger to be met
Sadness is the base
For strength that you will gain
For now throw on a smile
And dry up all the rain



A poem by Dannii SHY
DO YOU FULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE SHY?
TO WISH THE GROUND WOULD SWALLOW YOU UP,
TO SOMETIMES JUST WISH YOU COULD DIE,
TO BE SO CRIPPLED WITH FEAR
YOU NEVER LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL
TO JUST SIT ALONE
AND CRY AND CRY
TO ASK YOURSELF WHY?
TO ALWAYS FEEL AS IF YOUR BEING WATCHED
WHEN REALLY YOUR NOT
TO NEVER BE ABLE TO FEEL AT EASE
AND ALWAYS BE EAGER TO PLEASE
TO ALWAYS FEEL THE 'ODD' ONE OUT
TO ALWAYS HAVE THAT HORRIBLE SELF DOUBT.



By Gerard Williams
Shadow
i am
the shadow
walked all over
cast
upon the wall
unnoticed
hiding in the night
hiding from the light


Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS always a joy to hear from you.

Communication

Communication

There is a story of an old missionary who struggled by himself for many years in a remote area of the world.

Finally, the Mission Board wrote to tell him it had raised enough money to send an assistant. They sent a young man who had the self-confidence that comes with being young and right out of seminary.

When the young man arrived at the mission station, they called together the chief and the entire tribe to welcome him.

Then they asked the young man to say a few words. He could speak only English, so the old missionary stood by to translate. The young fellow said something like this: "We must always remember that there is an infinite and qualitative distinction between the eternal gospel and all the historical manifestations of it under the contingencies of human existence."

The old missionary stood for a moment dumbfounded, as the young man waited for him to translate.

Finally, the wise old missionary turned to the people and said, "Friends, he says he loves you and is glad to be here." -- USWest Health & Safety

To shoot over the heads of those we address does not so much reveal that we are brilliant as it reveals that we are poor shots. -- Dr. Dale Turner

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One thing shy people fear is saying what is on their minds. One reason is you believe that you will not appear intelligent, witty, deep, etc. Also you believe you will sound foolish.

I hope this story illustrates the point that you can be more effective if your communciation is easy to understand and meaningful. You do not have to speak in a way that is foreign to you nor your listener.

To get you on your way to speaking with confidence please check this out.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Give Yourself a Helping Hand

The Boy Bathing
A boy bathing in a river was in danger of being drowned. He called out to a passing traveler for help, but instead of holding out a helping hand, the man stood by unconcernedly, and scolded the boy for his imprudence. "Oh, sir!" cried the youth, "pray help me now and scold me afterwards." Counsel without help is useless.

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Is this what happens when you talk with yourself about your shyness? Do you scold yourself? Are you harsh with yourself?

Why not give yourself a helping hand? You know that scolding yourself makes you feel worse, inferior, helpless and humiliated. Those feelings will not help you overcome your shyness. What will help you overcome your shyness is a helping hand. You can give yourself a helping hand. Be nice to yourself. Help yourself.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

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